Happenings and Such

Life as usually has been in warp speed!

We have had two weddings in October, followed by football games, supper clubs, work and Engagement party for us!  October has been a busy month for us but I must say it has been fabulous!

The weddings were beautiful and of course I'm on the phone with my mom first thing the next morning discussing each event in full detail.  Wes and I have SIX months before walking down the aisle and there are lots of details to be worked out.

I have my bridal portraits on Friday and I am so excited!  I can not wait to see my dress ... let alone wear it!! I am very very excited!!!  My mother will not allow for me to have my dress at my house ... most likely because one would find me sitting on my couch watching TV in it ... I have not seen nor worn my dress in awhile.

As soon as friends send me pictures from our Engagement Party on Saturday I will be sure post!  I can't wait to see the pictures.  It was an awesome party and it was wonderful having our friends from Raleigh make the drive to come celebrate.  My Aunt Janice from New York even made the party!  Wes and I were really excited that she came to celebrate with us.  However, she is now stuck here in Raleigh because of Sandy.  Her flight has been delayed until Wednesday.  This works out well for us because we are having dinner with her tonight and the family.  I haven't had dinner at my Mom's in forever!  Wes has been up there more for dinner then I have!  My mother seems to think Wes will starve if I am out of town or working a weekend shift so she always has him come up for dinner.  I think it is hysterical - I assure her peanut butter and jelly will not kill him.  But I then in return get the left overs from dinner!  So it's a win win. =)  Plus it is sweet that my family love him so much that they feel like I do not need to be around for them to spend time together.   Wes jokes and says that's because they love him more ... he best watch it.  =)

Control

I have control issues.  More like micro managing issues and by issues I mean people.



I have always known this about myself ... however instead of working on this problem it has seemed to manifest itself into a bigger problem.






Apparently wedding planning is a sure fire way to feed control issues.  Also nursing ... nursing does not help with control issues.

Feelings

If there is one thing that Wes and I have worked on over the past year plus of living together it would be communication.  We communicate very differently.  

I grew up in a household that was / is very vocal.  We express when we are happy/upset/etc. at any given moment in the day.  We love talking about out feelings.  And by we ... my mother and I love talking about our feelings.  If I am upset you are going to know it and I do not hold back in letting you know ... that ticked me off.  What can I say ... I am an emotional person.  Granted I feel as though the positive/energetic self comes out more often then not.  I also love to talk ... about everything.  I am more of a story teller .. I want you to feel like you were with me while I am reliving my day. Along with that, I want to know how others are feeling and know in detail .  

Wes was not one to talk about his feelings.  He is more of one that takes in a deep breath, holds it in, and say, "I'm going for a run."  Not a big a talker that one ... more of a internalizer.  Well ... after living with someone who at nauseam loves to ask "What are you feeling? What did you do then? How was your day? Tell me about it in detail? How did that make you feel?" Someone has a taken a turn about their feelings.  

Last week, I was exhausted, PMSing, and just mentally checked out from work.  I came home Tuesday around 8:30, showered, and climbed into bed.  Wednesday ... same routine.  This raised some concern for Wes because he followed me into the bedroom and sat down with a look of concern.  

Wes:  "What's going on." 

ME: "Nothing." 

Wes: "Well how was your day?"

Me: "Fine." 

Wes: "Do you want to talk about your feelings?" 

I died laughing.  Touche Wesley.  I told him I was good on the feelings talk.  Love him.  And all our feeling talks.