I now know why people elope ....

Wedding planning is exhausting ... quite honestly I don't know how my mother is doing it.  We have about 6 items left on the bullet list till it's go time. 

Though the wedding planning has been fun but ... I'm ready for show time.  As is my groom ... we were talking the other day after yet another melt down of "holy heck when are we going to get this all done." And I said - "Well this is ridiculous lets just elope - I'm over it.  I have a fabulous dress ... you have an amazing suite and I hear it's like 80 degree in Saint John." 

Wes: "Ah - No. No ma'am. No ma'am.  After all this (waving hands around in crazed man kind of way) - we are doing it.  We are getting married the old fashioned way. Down the aisle you go." 

Well I guess that settles that ... down the aisle I go April 27th! 

Save the Date

Despite the fact that I sent my Save the Dates out months ago ... I am obsessed with them.  I worked on them for about two months and looked at several different companies online before I went with minted.   I must say - this company is amazing!  Once I finally figured out what I wanted, they had proof to me within 24hrs and once I finallized the proof ... they were at my doorstep within four days!

I wanted to use a postcard for our save the date, because I have a bit of an thing when it comes to postcards.  I purchase postcards from different places I visit and I also participate in a postcard exchange with one of my favorite girlfriends.  We have been exchanging postcards for years now ... I even have a collage of postcards she has sent me framed hanging in my house.


And now our Save the Date:

The background of the postcard is a picture I took of Haywood Hall - where we will have our reception.

Even Lucy was apart of our Save the Date... complete with my homemade chalkboard =) 

And I love how the boarder is our wedding website - I wasn't sure how I would include the website, but then realized I could use the boarder.  Bingo! 

Next up on the agenda: Wedding Invitations

Holiday Excitement

Wes and I just got back in town from spending the weekend in Charleston with my brother and Amy.  We went down to surprise Nick for his 31st birthday.  And well after spending the weekend with them I am so excited about Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays.  Amy will be joining our family for Turkey Day and over the Christmas holiday.  And Grandpa Nick is coming for Christmas this year!!!  I am so excited.  I can't wait - especially for the Christmas holidays.  Last year I barely was able to spend time with my family being that I worked on Christmas Eve.  And well spending 13/14 hours at the hospital I was definitely missing them.  And since Wes and I are splitting time with each other's families ... I felt like I was dividing myself three different ways.  Not this year!  I have off Christmas Eve and Christmas and I cannot wait to celebrate with the family.  And with Amy joining us as well - I am pumped that no longer will me and mom be the only girls.  Especially since the boys have adopted Wes like the brother they never had ... they are just like three little amigos who enjoy ganging up on me.  So typical ....

The first weekend in December, Wes and I will be going on our (in his words) "Second Annual Brummer Family Christmas Tree Adventure."  Yes, Lucy, Wes, and I will be heading off to NC mountains to find ourselves the perfect Christmas tree.  I am still working on Ethel coming with us as well ... but Wes doesn't seem to be budging on that one.  I think I need to work on Ethel wearing her harness.  Perhaps that will help me and Ethel's case.

Gobble and Wobble

Wes has felt inspired with all his fabulous runs as of late and has decicded we should run the Turkey Trot on Thanksgiving Day.  This little trot is a 5 mile run ... right ... that's bit of a hall if one is trotting.  I am more into the 1 mile fun run they offering however I believe that is only for kids. 

Regardless it should be fun because my brothers will be joining us in this little advenutre and Amy better be joining as well!!! I am not running without my running buddy, Amy. 

Nothing like calling someone out on your blog =)

http://www.sportoften.com/events/eventDetails.cfm?pEventId=9226

Here is the link to the event if you would like to get your trot on Thanksgiving Day!

Happenings and Such

Life as usually has been in warp speed!

We have had two weddings in October, followed by football games, supper clubs, work and Engagement party for us!  October has been a busy month for us but I must say it has been fabulous!

The weddings were beautiful and of course I'm on the phone with my mom first thing the next morning discussing each event in full detail.  Wes and I have SIX months before walking down the aisle and there are lots of details to be worked out.

I have my bridal portraits on Friday and I am so excited!  I can not wait to see my dress ... let alone wear it!! I am very very excited!!!  My mother will not allow for me to have my dress at my house ... most likely because one would find me sitting on my couch watching TV in it ... I have not seen nor worn my dress in awhile.

As soon as friends send me pictures from our Engagement Party on Saturday I will be sure post!  I can't wait to see the pictures.  It was an awesome party and it was wonderful having our friends from Raleigh make the drive to come celebrate.  My Aunt Janice from New York even made the party!  Wes and I were really excited that she came to celebrate with us.  However, she is now stuck here in Raleigh because of Sandy.  Her flight has been delayed until Wednesday.  This works out well for us because we are having dinner with her tonight and the family.  I haven't had dinner at my Mom's in forever!  Wes has been up there more for dinner then I have!  My mother seems to think Wes will starve if I am out of town or working a weekend shift so she always has him come up for dinner.  I think it is hysterical - I assure her peanut butter and jelly will not kill him.  But I then in return get the left overs from dinner!  So it's a win win. =)  Plus it is sweet that my family love him so much that they feel like I do not need to be around for them to spend time together.   Wes jokes and says that's because they love him more ... he best watch it.  =)

Control

I have control issues.  More like micro managing issues and by issues I mean people.



I have always known this about myself ... however instead of working on this problem it has seemed to manifest itself into a bigger problem.






Apparently wedding planning is a sure fire way to feed control issues.  Also nursing ... nursing does not help with control issues.

Feelings

If there is one thing that Wes and I have worked on over the past year plus of living together it would be communication.  We communicate very differently.  

I grew up in a household that was / is very vocal.  We express when we are happy/upset/etc. at any given moment in the day.  We love talking about out feelings.  And by we ... my mother and I love talking about our feelings.  If I am upset you are going to know it and I do not hold back in letting you know ... that ticked me off.  What can I say ... I am an emotional person.  Granted I feel as though the positive/energetic self comes out more often then not.  I also love to talk ... about everything.  I am more of a story teller .. I want you to feel like you were with me while I am reliving my day. Along with that, I want to know how others are feeling and know in detail .  

Wes was not one to talk about his feelings.  He is more of one that takes in a deep breath, holds it in, and say, "I'm going for a run."  Not a big a talker that one ... more of a internalizer.  Well ... after living with someone who at nauseam loves to ask "What are you feeling? What did you do then? How was your day? Tell me about it in detail? How did that make you feel?" Someone has a taken a turn about their feelings.  

Last week, I was exhausted, PMSing, and just mentally checked out from work.  I came home Tuesday around 8:30, showered, and climbed into bed.  Wednesday ... same routine.  This raised some concern for Wes because he followed me into the bedroom and sat down with a look of concern.  

Wes:  "What's going on." 

ME: "Nothing." 

Wes: "Well how was your day?"

Me: "Fine." 

Wes: "Do you want to talk about your feelings?" 

I died laughing.  Touche Wesley.  I told him I was good on the feelings talk.  Love him.  And all our feeling talks.